We all have a past, and we all think about it more or less, depending on our character. We all have wishes and desires for our life. We all wish to reach them. Many people believe that their current life is "marked" by their past and that somehow everything that happens in their life today is influenced by their past.

If you had a difficult past, you probably believe that life was never fair to you and you are unable to do things as you wish. You carry that fear inside you that your past will always interfere.

Every single thing that happens to us from early on in our childhood surely influences in a certain manner our current life. It can only influence our decision-making on how to live our present life, only if we let it. We should live in the present moment, and not focus on our past or future, but most people struggle with it.

Why do you think people struggle with living in the present moment and living through their past? Surely because of what they were told. Everything that you heard when you were small stays in your memory for a lifetime. Not always consciously, but subconsciously your life is led by what you absorbed when you were little.

What if you heard today that even if your past was difficult and you had hardships that influenced your life you could change your life for the better? You can be the person you always wished to be. You might think that is quite impossible, but I am sure if you put aside all that you were "taught" about yourself, you can be the person you always wished to be.

You must be asking yourself: "How can I do that? How could I change the way that I think about my life?"

The first and foremost thing to do is to recognize your past, acknowledge it and accept it. The past that you had, surely happened because you had to be challenged to learn new things. Most of us say: "Oh, I will never do that when I am on my own, or I will do things differently when I am a parent!"

Our past helps us become aware of what we wish to become in life or what we wish to achieve. Our past experiences help us see what we need to change or what we need to accept to move along.

Living in the present moment is the best way to live your life. Our human mind though is like a store of various experiences that somehow reappear because we need to change our life and our way of thinking. All our experiences are unique, but at the same time, they are similar. Life always brings us to the same type of experience until we learn from it.

When you react to something that happens to you is because you need to resolve something from your past that is still unresolved. You need to heal. You need to change something in you today and move along. Reconciling with our past is our today’s success. Reconciling with what you were or what you experienced is like a balm to your heart. The minute your heart is healed you can move past all your previous experiences and live a good life today.

A good life does not mean that you won’t experience today or any other future day difficult experiences. A good life means that you try to understand all your life experiences and use your inner wisdom to integrate them. When you reconcile with your past you feel that your life is easier and the luggage that you carried all your life becomes less and less heavy.

We can't deny our past and we can't erase it, but what we can do instead is reconcile with it and learn from it. Our life journey is always evolving if we help ourselves and if we try to heal ourselves. Try not to dwell on our past. When your life will bring you again to a spot where your past will interfere say to yourself: "I see you, I accept you and I know you happened because I needed to learn something new today."

Your today might be influenced by your yesterday, but you can choose how you wish to live your life. The power is in your hands. You are the one who decides how your past can influence your life journey.

Remind yourself that your brain has an incredible neuroplasticity and can be rewired. Replace your past with a bright now and move along in your journey. 

If we choose to stay where we used to be, we have to own it. I am sure that most of us want to choose the best version of ourselves. So when you wake up every morning tell yourself: "The past is just the road that brought me to my current life. I am living the best life now because of everything that I learned along the way."